Infidelity Insights

Hollywood likes the idea of Infidelity, when your honest about it!

Wednesday January 5th 2005

With several new movies involving marital infidelity being released of late, we have noticed that the idea of infidelity is no longer a bad thingm provided people are honest about it.

We found a very insightful article about it authored by Charles Colson titled Why Infidelity Is In
In movies and on TV, the new ideal is not monogamy, but being honest about cheating. Here's a politically incorrect explanation. Click here to read the story

Physical Evidence of Infidelity

Wednesday January 5th 2005

If you have physical evidence that your spouse was unfaithful and you need it tested, you can do it yourself without the cost and embarrassment of sending it to a lab. We recommend Check Mate and suggest you follow the link below to learn more about how it may work for you. Check Mate Test Kits

XMAS CHEAT SHEET FOR WIVES TO CATCH STRAYING SPOUSES

Monday December 27th 2004

The following is an article published byBILL HOFFMANN with the on-line addition of the New York Post

December 24, 2004 -- Mommy may be kissing "Santa Claus" — but Daddy could be cheating for real.
The days and weeks following Christmas are the best time for wives who suspect their spouses are unfaithful to find telltale signs, says Ruth Houston, author of "Is He Cheating on You? — 829 Telltale Signs."

"A cheating husband can be exposed by the Christmas gifts he gives — and receives," Houston says.

One of the biggest giveaways is the "hidden gift discovered before Christmas that has now disappeared, but wasn't given to you. If no one else in the family received it, who did he give it to?"

A thank-you note or e-mail from a woman for a gift the wife has no knowledge of is also a tip-off.

So are gifts of a personal nature given by a female business acquaintance or "casual" friend, she says.

Expensive items that suddenly appear around the house after Christmas, which a husband tries to pass off as items he purchased, may mean an affair is in progress.


Houston began her research into spotting two-timing spouses nine years ago after she accidentally discovered her own (now ex-) husband's affair.

The New York City author conducted hundreds of interviews with infidelity victims, cheating husbands, relationship therapists, private investigators and marriage and family counselors to compile the top signs of two-timing.

"If a husband is really cheating on his wife, there will be dozens of other corroborating signs just waiting to be found. Knowing what to look for is the key," says Houston, now happily remarried.

"The wife no longer has to be the last to know!"

Adultery knows no bounds, so how do you know if your own marriage is safe, asks Emily Maguire.

Thursday December 23rd 2004

He is a pathetic sleazebag having a mid-life crisis; she is a home-wrecking tramp. The cuckolded husband was not man enough to keep his wife satisfied; the betrayed wife never wanted to have sex. The prevalence of adultery means that most of us have lived through it or watched a loved one do so, yet when discussing infidelity people most often resort to cliches such as these.

Probably, we each know of at least one adultery-shattered marriage where none of these scenarios was true, but we repeat the stereotypes anyway because they help us to sleep at night. Or, more to the point, they help us to sleep at night when our own partner is away from home.

Depending on which study you believe, between 30 per cent and

50 per cent of people in long-term relationships have been unfaithful, and, according to the Australian Institute of Family Studies, infidelity is cited as the main provocation in 20 per cent of divorce cases.

After decades of research into infidelity, however, the late Shirley Glass concluded that, despite popular belief, it is not "possible to prevent affairs by being loving and dedicated to one's partner". In fact, her book Not 'Just Friends' begins with the declaration that "good people in good marriages are having affairs".

This makes sense to my friend Annabelle*, who has had "a few" one-night stands and several short-term relationships during the eight years she's been married to Richard.

"Honestly, there is nothing I would change in my marriage, and if Richard left me I'd

be devastated."

So why cheat?

Read the complete story at FairfaxDigital